Finding Mr. Right isn't like a treasure hunt game, you don't have to be smartest or swiftest to snag your dream guy.
Dr Annie Kaszina of YourTango lists a few things you should know about your Mr. Right:
- He Exists: This is really important. Have you been telling yourself he's too good to be true? The reality is, he exists. But if you don't believe it, you're going to have a much harder time finding him. Think Tinkerbell in Peter Pan. Every time someone says, "I don't believe in fairies," a fairy dies. It's not that extreme, but still ... you get the picture.
- He's Looking For You, Too: He doesn't want to be stuck in the wrong relationship any more than you do. Like you, he's looking. You may need to help him a bit, but avoid throwing yourself at him — just be someone it feels great to be around.
- He Doesn't Have A Shelf-Life (And Neither Do You): Truly. You don't know when the right time is for you to meet. For you to be a great partner, you have to reach a certain level of emotional maturity, which takes time and experience. Don't try to cheat yourself (and him) by rushing it.
- He Cares About The Little Things: What makes a good romantic movie is nothing like what makes a good long-term relationship — real life lasts rather longer than the 120 minutes. You need to think about the little things you want because, in a long-term relationship, the small things are usually the big things. How do you want to feel about going to the supermarket together? Or facing difficulties together? Or doing housework together?
- He's Happy: It's a myth that drama and being temperamental are sexy. The reality is, high maintenance behaviors all eventually become a pain in the butt (rather than sexy). You don't really want to be around someone with rollercoaster-like moods long-term, do you? Happiness is a much more valuable commodity. You need to be happy and be with someone who is happy. It's that simple.
- He's More Than Just Great Sex: I'm not saying that there is anything wrong with great sex — there isn't. However, assuming great sex is enough to make a great relationship is a very bad idea. You want someone who can love you with his words and actions (as well as great sex). Sex is simply one delicious part of what should be a delicious relationship.
- He Appreciates You: Living with someone long-term is like living under a microscope — you get to see each other's faults in glorious technicolor. Everyone has faults and everyone's faults can be irritating. The best known antidote to irritation is appreciation. Choose someone — and be someone — truly appreciative of all that is great about their partner.
- He Makes You Laugh: Couples who laugh together have a better chance of staying together long-term than couples who don't. The more you laugh, the more you'll be able to laugh your way through relationship challenges. It's seriously good for the health of your relationship!
- He's Not Perfect (Nobody Is): He just needs to be the right kind of imperfect. If you're a neat freak and he's ... not, that probably won't be a great fit. But if you both feel reasonably relaxed about a few articles of clothing on the bathroom floor, you'll have a much better chance together.
- He's A Gentleman: If you are thinking long-term, wouldn't you like to be with someone who is gentle on your feelings? Gentleness is frequently undervalued and has a very long shelf-life. It's also great your emotional health. Source: Pulseng
